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“How could I have been so blind?”

This novel was written after Jocelyn shared dating “war stories” with her wonderful friends who had experienced similar stories of deception. Many of us were embarrassed at our naivete, and Jocelyn wanted to cast a light on how trusting people can be at risk of manipulation, create resilience and become less susceptible to emotional fraud.

Balancing trust with discretion can be a challenge. Sometimes we err on the side of caution, attaching intentions to others that may not be true. Other times, we make excuses for poor behaviour, attaching attributes we wish someone had when their actions haven’t supported our hopes. 

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the readers say…

Great diversity of characters

This is a great read – I found it hard to put down as the characters all seemed to be so real. Loved that there were different “voices” and that all sides of the story were covered from individual perspectives. A fabulous first book from an emerging author who incorporated her life skills and. Knowledge to make a great story come alive.

– Amazon 5 star review


Of course, hindsight is 20/20, and the rest of us who are in the dating world can learn about potential red flags thanks to Jocelyn’s candor in her book. She has a knack for throwing light on the motives of the other characters in the book by telling the events from their points of view as well as from her own. I found this book to be interestingly unique.

– Amazon 5 star review

You will read this amazing book in one day!

Jocelyn’s book is a heartfelt, honest, insightful, he said, she said story about love, hopes and dreams. I went on a rollercoaster ride with all the characters in the story. I saw bits and pieces of me in the decisions some of the characters made. I cried with Jocelyn for her disappointments. I cheered her on for her brutal honesty and courage. I felt sympathy, empathy and compassion for all the characters as I could understand their own flawed searches for love. Read this book if you love love. Read this book if you question your intuition. Read this book if you wonder why good people do stupid things when it comes to love. Read this book if you are a human being who is intrigued by the intricacies of love. I could not put this book down and read it in one day. Read this!

– Amazon 5 star review

You can lead a horse to water...

But you can’t make him drink. This insightful book is a must-read for any woman who has ever been in a difficult relationship. As I devoured page after page after page, I was taken back to the emotions and angst of numerous failed attempts at meaningful relationships. I was both uplifted and exhausted in reading the trials and tribulations of trying to make a romance work with a broken spirit who keeps repeating the mistakes of the past. Buck is a tragic character who won’t get out of his own way long enough to see that what he truly needs is right in front of him; but in doing so, teaches all of us a valuable lesson. I could not put this book down, and cannot wait to read Jocelyn’s next masterpiece.

– Amazon 5 star review

Great writer!

I stated this book this morning and here it is 5pm and I just finished. I haven’t read a book in a day in years! Very interesting writing perspective and intriguing story.

– Amazon 5 star review


I began reading this book mid morning and finished close to 11 o’clock pm. I was unable to put it down. There were so many similarities to a relationship I was having at about the same time. Reading this story helped me to realize that I am enough. I’m not a crazy lady with “trust issues”. I know Jocelyn to be an exceptional role model. She is smart, funny and has a way with words that speaks to my heart. I am so glad Jocelyn shared her story. I am proud to be able to call her my friend. I will be telling everyone who will listen to me that they should read this fabulous cautionary tale! Well done, Jocelyn!

– Amazon 5 star review

This story draws you in

This story draws you in, just as Buck draws the horses in—mesmerizing, seductive. Who is going to live happily ever after?

Any survivor of an abusive relationship will quickly recognize the manipulation and gaslighting evident in the dialogues. Jocelyn’s honest and vulnerable story will help others find their way back to themselves, to the bedrock of what love really starts with: self-respect, accountability and trust.

I applaud her courage to share her story. I know without a doubt this will be a lifeline for others who struggle with the tangled web that makes it so difficult to leave abusive relationships.

Gail Sherley, Toastmasters District 42 President of the Year

Haven’t you ever wanted to listen to all sides of the story when your man says it’s not his fault?

If you are a woman who has ignored your intuition about a man and love, you must read this book. Haven’t you ever wanted to listen to all sides of the story when your man says it’s not his fault? Read this book and laugh, weep, stomp and cheer on some of the women in this story. Perhaps, you may see a little of yourself in them. It will propel you to listen to your inner voice and to understand the many nuances of the rollercoaster of love. You won’t be able to put this book down!

Kelly Kaur, Author, Lecturer

Wow. Just wow.

I read this in one sitting. I literally could not put it down. There were times when I wanted to smack both of them—AND I have been there so many times myself! Excellent story!

Ashara Morris, Gestaltist, Animal Communicator, Author


This book has touched me on so many levels and prodded many of my sore points. I enjoyed the format; listening to each person’s voice shines a light on a whole new perspective. My attention was captured from page one.

Annette Price, Certified Practitioner, EGC Method ™

A must-read for every woman

Every woman’s experience of what she hopes could be a life-long, life-defining relationship is different. Some of us are lucky (and I do mean lucky) to find someone who becomes a life partner, but that’s a rocky road. Jocelyn Hastie chronicles the exploration of that road with insight, searing honesty and genuine generosity. 

Holly Quan, Author

Wow. The first line of the introduction sucked me right in.

As I was reading the Buck chapters I could hear the stories of the men from my past. The forever victims, manipulators, poor me attitudes, and always with a hint of the good person hiding under it all, that used to suck me in. I so wish I would have had this to read in the midst of my first marriage. I really enjoyed reading the different perspectives of the same situation. It always amazes me how different people see the same life event. The author has done a brilliant job capturing this.

There were places that my head was spinning in the turmoil of the exhausting back and forth of trying to find reason and harmony. I was brought right into the thick of it.

Beth Bates Chaffin, Certified Practitioner, EGC Method ™

Amust-read for middle-aged women who find themselves in or are contemplating plunging into the dating scene.

As women, we are conditioned to nurture and “tough it out,” therefore we often excuse bad behaviour. Jocelyn’s approach to tell this story from multiple viewpoints helps the reader see the red flags that we don’t always recognize when we’re in the trenches, especially when we’re vulnerable and hungry for love. I found the ending particularly poignant, realizing there is no shortage of women who willingly succumb to the dubious charms of the Bucks they meet.

Shelley Goldbeck, DTM, Thinker, Writer, Speaker

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